So. A post about dating is one I've played around with in my head for awhile, but always felt weird about actually putting out there. Because it is weird. And I've had kind of a hard time with it.
Yes, I'm dating someone right now. He's caring and patient and loves me for who I am. Am I going to marry him? Probably not. But it's been interesting to learn the ropes.
Honestly? I still suck at it. I distinctly remember a few years ago thinking "Thank you Jesus for bringing me my husband so early in life. My poor heart- I don't think I would fare well in the dating world. That is JUST not. for. me."
Yet, here I am.
Cody and I started "dating" when we were 15. Got engaged at 19, and got married 6 months later. The dating scene? Skipped it completely.
So now, I'm 29 years old and have no idea what to do. What to expect. In my head, when you are with someone, in a relationship, you are WITH them. Activities, church, dinner, life. Together. I'm having the hardest time separating the all inclusive togetherness of marriage with the more casual togetherness of dating. It causes fights.
I have my life.
He has his.
And they are not one in the same.
This leaves me with disappointed expectations. Quiet lonely evenings after the kids are in bed. I miss the companionship of having my friend around all the time.
It's been hard to be patient through this. I know I most likely have YEARS of this ahead of me, and it's overwhelming to think about. I know the "christian" answer- that I'm supposed to find peace and fulfillment right where I am and be thankful for this time to focus on God, the kids, and myself. I'm also pretty sure most of the people who think this or would give me that advice are people who are already married. So to you...suck it. Why don't you get left behind by your love and then try to find "peace and fulfillment".
Oh my. That sounded bitter.
I'm (okay, mostly) not really bitter. I just get frustrated by people who think they know the answers when they haven't been in the situation at all.
So, that's what goes on in my head. Have a single mom in your life? Here's a tip. Encourage her. Tell her that her situation sucks but she is rocking it. That you don't know how things are going to turn out for her, but you are praying for her and excited be on the journey with her to see where life is going to take her.